Wednesday, October 10, 2012

My sweet 6 soon to be 7 year old little girl...

Cara is 6, soon to be 7.  She is now in grade 2 and at this age something funny seems to happen, a new NEED (as they call it) seems to develop. I NEED to be with friends AT ALL TIMES. 

Cara is no longer content sitting in the safety of her home with her WONDERFUL family that know D.  She wants to be with her friends, friends that she just spent ALL DAY with at school, that of course, have little to no D experience.

Well, this new NEED of Cara's has cause a bit of a problem for this D mama.  And this need has been nagging me for sometime.  But what can I do?  My sweet 6 soon to be 7 year old little girl dealing with such a great big bad thing like type 1 diabetes ALL BY HERSELF... 

Around this house that is not the way we deal with diabetes. O.K. I may feel that way ALL THE TIME when it comes to Cara and diabetes however I would NEVER let her know that. 

We have stressed to Cara that she can do anything anyone else is doing.  She just needs to make sure that she follows some guidelines while doing everything any other person is doing.  We like to empower want to run cross country...OK then, you will run cross country!  You should have heard her poor nurse when Cara told her that she was running.  Her nurse called me up and said "Cara says something about going out for the cross country team?? and I said "YEP" (with a smile on my face because I could hear the concern she had for Cara running, just like I do.) "Hmmm, OK! what do you want me to do for her"  knowing full well that holding this kid back will do no good.  So Cara, her nurse and myself came up with a plan and I spoke with the x-country coach and filled him in. 

And that is the way we do it around here, we make a plan, we see how it works, we make changes as needed.  

But this, "you can do anything anybody else can do thing" is waaaay easier said then done. Cara, only 6 with type 1 diabetes wants to hang out on HER OWN at her friends houses.  She does not want them to come here (I tried that) she wants to go there.  And to make matters worse Cara has an older sister Kylie who also enjoys playing with her friends at their homes.  Cara sees Kylie doing it and she wants to go too.

So yesterday, Cara came RUNNING in the house. (Cara is always the first kid in and the first kid out, she just runs everywhere) 

Cara: "A is going to call and see if I can go to her house!!!!  Please mom can I go, can I go...MOOOM, MOM, MOM?" (I was trying to ignore her, maybe the need will just go away)
Me: "Well, lets just see if she is going to call and then we can make a plan" In the back of my mind I was hoping for this to be one of those kids making plans that never come to fruition things.  However the phone did ring and it was A's mom asking if Cara could come over for an hour or so.

And I said YES.

Now, we made it simple, as simple as you can.  We gave Cara an after school snack (10gs) before she left however we left it uncovered.  She had running that afternoon at school and I did not want to push my luck.  It was her first practice and I was unsure of how our x-county plan was going to pan-out so just to be on the safe side.  10 free carbs.  We packed her blue bag with everything that she needed (sugar free drink, meter case, Canadian rockets (to treat lows) and she was off. All by herself, my poor sweet 6 soon to be 7 year old little girl dealing with a great big bad thing like type 1 diabetes ALL BY HERSELF for one hour.  (A's mom of course had our number if they needed it and we live 5 minutes away) Oh boy I watched that clock like a hawk, I had the phone by my side and NO ONE was allowed to use it, I even ask my husband to leave a little early to pick her know because SHE CAN DO EVERYTHING JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE CAN...BLAH BLAH BLAH.

One hour went by, my husband picked her up and she had a great time. I asked her "so what did you do"? and she nonchalantly told me she went low "like 3.2mmols  (57.6) low".

What? how did you know? What did you do? Did you try to call home?

Cara: I felt low, I told her mom, I tested, I was low, I ate 2 rockets (14carbs) anytime she is in the 3's or under we treat with 2 rockets, that's the plan) and then we played again. I had fun!  Can I go over again?

and that was that...

SHE DID IT... she did what everyone else was doing.  She just needed to follow some guidelines while doing it...and she did it.  Now of course I would have liked a phone call to be added to that guideline she followed and I'm working on that, she must call home and recheck bg after a low!!

But I'm very proud of my sweet, brave and smart 6 soon to be 7 year old amazing girl dealing with type 1 diabetes.


Amanda said...

Good girl, Brave momma!

Heidi / D-Tales said...

Letting go is SO hard!!! Be proud, mama! Proud of yourself and proud of your incredible Cara!!! xoxo

Lora said...

Awe!! She did great!! Don't freak out, but YOU KNOW what's coming next... Sleepovers. EEK!!

Denise aka Mom of Bean said...

little steps like that are so important....who am I kidding, LEAPS like that (for us) are important for our kids to feel like everyone else!
Good for her for doing what she needed to do to take care of herself!

Stephanie said...

That is WONDERFUL!!! Go Cara!!! I am so proud of her (and you!) because I know how hard it is to let them go. That must have given her and you such great confidence!

Krissy McMomma said...

Yeah! They are so much more capable than we think they are, but it's SO HARD to let go!!

shannon said...

these steps are so hard to take (for us as parents)

WAY TO GO, both of you! :)