Thursday, June 14, 2012

3 Years and Backward Movement Hits Hard

Today I'm truly at a loss, I feel defeated, I really don't understand?!?!

How difficult is it for people to understand the dangers and troubling reality of type 1 diabetes in children within our Ontario schools?

How difficult is it for people to offer an empathetic ear and truly listen to the issues at hand? I understand that type 1 diabetes is misunderstood, it is complicating and I understand that type 1 is not seen for the true monster it is...but when the information is handed to you, when the reality is thrown in your face, how do you not see it?  Is these disease really that hard to grasp?  If you don't live this life you just don't get it? 

Why is type 1 diabetes over looked as a serous and life threatening disease?   

How difficult is it to support the students that are in your care for the duration of the weekday? Or to support your community, the parents and the teachers that are working unbelievably hard to keep these children alive? To me, it makes perfect sense and for a certain population of children affected by different challenges this is true, you have a population of children with a specific need (that by the way is growing at astonishing numbers) and you (the school boards and the Ontario Government) should make changes to meet their needs, you should work to keep these children safe, healthy and learning in your schools.

At what point is it OK to turn your back and ignore this issues of type 1 children in Ontario schools?

With all the education, with all the information that we are sharing, you would think that these higher heads would HEAR our cries, they would SEE our fears, they would realize our needs and maybe just maybe common sense would come into play.  Upon learning and listening about these NEEDS of children with type 1 changes should be made as needed to the schools...but I guess it is just not that simple.  The only changes that I see in my community are for the worse.  Recently our type 1 diabetes educator program that would once a year schedule a very important T1 informational meeting with the whole school staff on how to help and support the child with diabetes has been canceled.  Our Diabetic clinic is in the process of educating public health nurses to go into schools once a year to explain the challenges and needs of children with type 1 diabetes in schools who ONLY have newly diagnosed children attending.  This now leaving parents with this preexisting disease on their own to explain to the schools how to support their children.

Problem: there are a few things that I have learned in my 3 year fight to get changes in our school system, one of them is the people who need to be educated, the people who now it is are up to the parents to educate... do not want to hear it from a parent, they want to and usually only listen to a "professional" A.K.A a nurse.

Funny thing is this "MOM" knows more about my child and diabetes then the average nurse does.

Question: Can a parent even call a staff meeting like our diabetic educator could? I do not believe so but this mom is going to try because I believe that education is key in keeping my child safe.     

The lack of rights for our children with type 1 diabetes completely blows my mind.

When there are parents across Canada fighting everyday for the very same thing that I am... WE HAVE A PROBLEM

When my principal is calling me asking how we get more support for Cara because she and her staff can not handle the needs of my child... WE HAVE A PROBLEM.

When our children with type 1 diabetes are being discriminated against, their rights being denied because school staff, school boards and Governments don't understand the issue at hand...WE HAVE A PROBLEM

and when something BAD happens to my daughter at school because you the Government of Ontario did not take the necessary precautions...YOU WILL HAVE A MAJOR PROBLEM.
     
Children with physical disabilities are of course supported within the school system as they should be.  If ever a child with a physical challenge was unable to attend school because the school was not accessible to them and or their disability was not being accommodated for you better believe there would be a huge outcry...it's discrimination.

Children with peanut allergy (I have one) there is a mandatory yearly education for staff, life saving medication is stored within the school, there are policies as to how to deal with a child with peanut allergy. Unfortunately, children had to die before policies and support was given to these kids.  You would think that one would see the sad unfortunate reality of denied school support in this case and perhaps come to the realization that being proactive in supporting children with type 1 diabetes without the loss of life would be a positive and supported decision.

SO WHY THE FIGHT?

From day one of trying to enroll Cara in school we learned of the vast differences from school to school in handling a child with type 1 diabetes.  The first week of Cara's diagnoses this unfortunate truth become our reality.  On enrollment in J.K. we were told that Cara would not be able to test her blood sugar during school hours because of the presents of blood.  Completely unrealistic to believe that a child with type 1 could go over 2 hours without testing their blood sugar while eating, playing, and learning.  Obviously we educated and fought and she was able to test.  But how does a newly diagnosed 3 to 4 year old test on her own? How does that 3 to 4 year old child decode the numbers that are popping up on the meter without support? I would call meetings with our diabetic educator for the school staff, Cara's teacher is not the only teacher in the school that Cara has contact with on a daily basis there are gym teachers, french teachers, teachers overseeing recess, reading and computer teachers and of course the substitute teacher.  In the beginning the only one showing up for these very important and informative T1 information sessions was Cara's homeroom teacher.  It was heart breakingly scary to send my 4 year old to school, my heart would stop with every phone call thinking that something bad had happened to Cara and a few things did, I almost pulled Cara out of school that year 2 times.  We had some scary lows, and I was running that poor little girl so high just to keep her out of immediate dangers of low blood sugar however opening her up to other dangers caused by high blood sugars.

Parents all throughout Ontario are having to outweigh dangers and put aside safety over education.  Many parents are using an insulin that many physicians and nurses in the states dislike...NPH, it is often referred to as "Not Particularly Helpful" but these parents are using this insulin because it peaks at a specific time, lunch time and therefore no shot of insulin is needed and because there are no nurses in these schools this means the parents do not have to leave work or quiet their job to administer life saving insulin.  Many communities in Canada DO NOT HAVE NURSES in the schools leaving parents again forgoing their child's safety for education. A HUGE ISSUE that is not being dealt with.  There are so many other issues that must be addressed. 

Our school support NOW at our new school is greatly different from what we and others experienced in the beginning at a different school and at other schools in our community.  As always I keep up the fight, I still fight for Cara's rights that are being denied even with a very supportive school, I fight for other parents that may not be so outspoken about their child's safety and needs.  I have fought and I will continue to for these kids!  BUT parents you CANNOT leave it up to the small majority of T1 parents that have taken on many of these issues.  WE ALL NEED TO SPEAK UP, with every year that goes by, with all the work that a few very proactive parents in our community has done and will continue to do I don't see things getting any better for our children.  I actually feel we are going backwards. 

We need your support to continue, stop complaining in silents, stop bitching that things NEED to change and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

I feel ALONE (minus a few very active parents) in this battle especially within my community.  I know you are fighting your own quiet fights, but it is time for the majority to hear you.  It's time we all come together and fight the same fight...It is time for people to start listening!  

If this post once again does not change the minds of those in charge of making the policies HOPEFULLY it has made it to a few more parents that see and understand what all our children are up against.  Pick up a pen and paper, email a letter, call your school, call your school board, call your government, write the local paper, get involved...MAKE A DIFFERENCE, STAND UP FOR YOUR CHILD...PLEASE!!.

Let others know what you are up against, help get the word out OUR CHILDREN NEED SUPPORT, T1 EDUCATION, POLICIES, NURSES, LIFE SAVING MEDICINE AVAILABLE WITHIN THEIR SCHOOLS.  We really can't do this  alone!              


Monday, June 11, 2012

A JDRF Walk, Some POOP In Hand and a Hysterical 0.6mmols...My Sunday!

Yesterday was a crazy, LOOOOONG day and for some it was fricken Hysterical .

We had our Telus walk to cure diabetes this Sunday.  This year I put my efforts into raising funds for my 23 year old cousins Cystic Fibrosis team which was 2 weeks before our JDRF walk.  I also volunteered to work our JDRF Outreach table during the walk trying to meet new people and get the news out about our upcoming family events.  So this year we did not get the whole team together...it was just the 8 of us...not a bad size team if I do say so myself.

It was a great day, the kids had a blast and my husband and I were both happy that we made it out to the walk.  I started my day at 5:30am so by 1:00am in the hot, hot sun I was SPENT.  Chris and I spent the rest of our day with revolving naps...we could not believe how tried we were from our day and were counting down the minutes until bedtime for the kids.

With all the activity Cara had in the day, the walk then playing all afternoon with Kylie and her friend I was on D momma alert with bedtime blood sugars...needless to say I was planning on fighting lows all night and luckily with all the naps I had, I was READY to fight the lows ALL night.

I checked Cara's bg at 12:00am and ding, ding, ding...a 6.0mmols, perfect! But crap, with all that activity in the day...here we go, let the T1 mind games begin! 6.0 is perfect for a normal day but it might not be so perfect for a child that has been running around all day long.  However 3 nights prior we tweaked our over night basal perfectly and I know that without that activity she would be holding steady at 6 through the whole night.  I don't want to spike her too high however and I don't want her dropping low in the night either.  UGH! you pick the wrong one and it could mean disaster for your child.  I went with the option that I NEVER feel comfortable choosing...I just reduced her basal.  Usually I feel much more comfortable sending her a little high in the night with some sugar then risking a low but tonight  I was feeling very confidant with her basal at a 60% reduction and I set an alarm for an hour.  I figured I would just see where her blood sugar went within that hour and make my call then to add a little sugar.

However before my 1am alarm went off I heard a door opening, it was Cody (3), who very rarely gets up in the night.  "Cody?" I said "whatcha doing?" With the most whining voice he proceeded to tell me he had poop stuck to his hand.  What? What is stuck to your hand? as I walked a little closer...YEP! he had a great big hunk of poop in his hand.  I kinda giggled...really not know what the hell was going on and with my arms stretched out as far as possible I picked him up and ran into my bathroom making sure not to drop the poop.  I cleaned him up and headed into his room just imagining the HUGE poop mess I was heading into.  Funny thing is... NO MESS he literally shit in his hands and run to my room...a good thing...I guess??

Since I was up I figured WHY NOT CHECK THE DIABETIC? and 5.9mmols, nice.  I felt good about that and knowing the 2am alarm was up next I raced back to sleep.  2am check came and I was NOT GETTING UP (sometimes my brain just shuts that damn alarm out and I sleep right through it) Luckily my husband was there to pick up the slack...maybe he felt bad that he did not even bother to move a muscle with the whole poop in hand situation so he did not wake me.   

I heard him in my sleeping haze walking back into the room "Nic, Nic look" showing me the meter with a number on it.  As I fought to open my eyes and focus on the number I read 0.6mmols.  In that split second my stomach fell out and a vomitty feeling took over, my heart started beating out of my chest, I refocused and read out-loud 0.6mmols as I literally threw my myself out of bed (as my husband says "like a great big jack in the box" my JACK-of-a-husband with a giggled grabbed me "No, No Nic she is fine" She is really 5.7mmols.  WHAT? to the WHAT? still holding me down..."she is fine, she is 5.7mmols".

He went on to tell me a really "FUNNY" story about how he went to check her and the strip just did not want to suck up the blood, he "hilariously" tried over and over touching the strip onto Cara's bleeding finger but it just would not work.  So he "Amusingly" placed the meter down to grab another strip and BEEP a "Hysterical"0.6mmols.  "Gut Bustingly" he quickly retest and 5.9mmols.  And instead of just coming into the room and telling me the whole CrAzY story he "Thigh Slappingly" decide to "Comically" scare the LIVING CRAP out of me with a fake bg reading of 0.6mmols.

HAHAHAF'enHA 

WHO IN THE HELL DOES THAT TO SOMEONE?!?! Seriously who?

He is lucky he is alive...just saying!

#didn'tknowbgmeterreadthatlow...now we know!